TOPIC: Gaj - gone but not forgotten

Just over a year ago, on the 22nd of January 2018 to be precise, our long-time moderator Gaj passed away in the Alfred Hospital from complications of Hepatitis C.

He was a friend, confidant, and supporter to many here. He was active on the forum for a long time, but I remember when his black and white avatar changed to colour the first time he got to end of treatment undetected...




Sadly that did not stick and we had to retreat and, at what should have been celebration time - SVR12, the undetected news was blighted by a shadow - the shadow of that went on to steal him from us.

Gaj was one of the good guys.

He's gone but he's not forgotten.

His name was Guy.

Guy's not the first friend I've lost, but, hopefully, he's the last.

Some years ago I lost a friend in a Hang Gliding accident. It felt like this then, and it feels like this now...

I still recall the night last year
The mate upon the phone
There’s something in the voice I hear
Just chills me to the bone

You hear ‘bout Nick Dillane today?
Comes crackling down the line
Such simple words, said in a way
Just knew he wasn’t fine

It seems that he was towing
In winds a little strong
And there’s no way of knowing
Exactly what went wrong

I hear the words wash over me
And a tear grows in my eye
Lockout…downwind…no release
No chance to say goodbye

Well it’s nearly been a year today
Since I’ve seen his smiling face
Still seems like only yesterday
That he stood here in this place

Well I know that I won’t see him
And I know that he is gone
But as long as I’m still breathin’
His memory will live on

So now I’d ask, you charge your glass
And just be glad we met him
Let’s drink to Nick, whose time has passed
I know I won’t forget him

Was truly touched by your post.

You've saved a lot of lives here, Doc. Was on my last legs physically when I arrived here ( test results bore witness to that), and won't forget the kindness, compassion, courage, and professionalism you share here every day.

I'll proudly join you in raising a glass to Gaj, to Nick, and to the friends we've lost along the way and will always remember.

Thanks for this post. Pretty much every time I open this forum I think of Guy, and what he was like, and how the world needs people like him more than ever.

We started treatment nearly the same day, his first time round. He kind of towered here for his rational, compassionate style. And he slipped away with no comment on the hand he was dealt. Many people were encouraged through their dark days by him.

Guy was one of the most influential contributors of FixHepC website. For all newbies check out his threads and posts. They are informative and from the heart. He is gone but still cherished from everyone he advised and helped....we all miss him.

Thanks Dr James for the tribute to Gaj and your friend Nick. I also think of Gaj when I sign in. I commented when he left us that it is almost hard to explain the impact that he had on this forum and on me personally. He was a calm and compassionate voice throughout my long treatment. Here's to Gaj.

I haven't posted much here since Gaj left us, but I recall he was one of the people who made this place a gathering of friends not yet met rather than a bunch of patients. I often entertained the idea of catching up with him to go fishing but sadly that was not to be.
He was definitely one of the good guys.

Hi sonix,

Nice to hear from you. How are you travelling post Hep C?

Gaj was definitely one of the good guys, and like you say, he did a great job of bringing people together into a community.

Best Wishes.

James

Hi DrJames, great to see you're carrying on with your precious work. You are indeed one of the good guys too.

Post treatment I'm definitely feeling better in a few ways but still suffering from old bloke maladies (64 now). Less muscle cramps, shivers/flushes, and skin is much clearer with almost none of that seborrhoeic dermatitis I used to have.
I still have a level of chronic anxiety but it's less than before. A more comfortable living situation helps that I'm sure. Had a bout of depression last year after I had to put my cat to sleep because of a nasty cancer but over that. A virus around new years almost flattened me with a subsequent bronchitis taking 2 courses of antibiotics to clear. I think it took a couple of months to recover from the antibiotics!
Eating well (ish), swimming, walking, cycling regularly and hardly drinking any alcohol. Also haven't had a cigarette for 6 months after taking up vaping. I highly recommend vaping as it's the only thing that worked after over 40 years of smoking. Overall a fairly positive outcome.
I don't recall if I had a test after SVR24 so I might ask for one when I go see a GP on Tuesday for a general health checkup. I think it's about 3 years since end of treatment.

Thanks for asking and it prompted me to actually do a health stocktake. I hope the skies are clear and life is rosy for you too!

Dear Gaj (Guy)
I just wanted to tell you that as long as this forum stands you will forever be immortalized...... by your helping hands.... by your encouraging notes when we were down at our lowest points......by your incredible attitude of never bringing focus to yourself or discussing your own problems! You always helped those in need.

They say when your good you never have to say it, so we’ll continue to say it for you.

May God be with you always.