GAJ gave good council, his moderation maintained the right kind of tone with well-considered and cheery fairness. A real mensch.

In retrospect it is extraordinary to read his generous responses to relatively trivial concerns when he was it turns out, staring his own death in the face. Beaches and Ariel’s posts here provide glimpses of the physical GAJ behind those forum posts. His lightness and brightness of being has been a gift to all of us, let’s maintain that great spirit and clear sightedness through any kindnesses we share here.

At times like these there are no words, so I must resort to borrowing those of people far more eloquent than me.

Richard Bach wrote Jonathan Livingston seagull. He also wrote a book called Illusions which contains the quote “Your friends will know you better in the first minute you meet than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years.”

I first met Guy 3 years ago and we chatted online, via the phone and over Skype. Sadly we never met face to face, and yet, I count him as a treasured friend.

We shared a common ideal best put by Martin Luther King who said “Life’s Most Persistent and Urgent Question Is, “What Are You Doing for Others?” – Guy was a man of substance who not only talked the talk, he walked the walk. When my time comes I hope I can muster half his quiet dignity.

I would like to offer this epitaph from Margaret Mead “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

Guy helped so many people who will never know his name. To do so for no pay or public acclaim speaks to his character. I will miss him greatly.

Dear Coral
Thank you for sending me your special words to include in my Tribute for our dear GAJ tomorrow.
He was indeed a dear and sweet man you summed his character so perfectly and yes the grief is enormous, the loss of our amazing friend has had created a wave of sadness around the whole globe. I’m honoured to read on the behalf of all who have sent me their tributes. Some have a copy of the eulogy I wrote but I will resend it before tomorrow with the edit in to include Corals words.

I feel at this time more than ever Gaj would want us all to keep the good message of the DAAs spreading and to support every person here seeking or going through tx. I am sure we can keep his light burning here by emulating his gracious and selfless presence on the forum to assist people in our own humble little ways.
With love
Ariel

I’m very sad to hear of Gaj’s passing. He helped so many through his great work. What a kind man.

Rest in Peace Gaj

I never met Gaj, but I know him well. A more unselfish person would be hard to find. Gaj helped many, many people through a very difficult time in their lives with his knowledge, advice and compassionate words, all the while fighting an illness that would eventually take this fine man from this existence and into the next.
No more 3 hour phone conversations buddy…
Relax and fish for eternity, my friend.
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I didn’t know Gaj but reading about him here, it’s obvious that he made a very positive impact on the lives of so many. He sounds like a truly amazing person, and will be greatly missed, much respect.

Hi RSF
I will pass your exact message onto the family and closest friends.
I’m putting together a little booklet for Guys sister and will include all these lovely messages and memories and use the Forum names apart from the people who Guy knew personally here. I’m also compliling a “GAJ” supportive quotes for his lovely sister so I would love any help with that it all means so much to all here.
It was a very beautiful farewell and his last days were very peaceful
Condolences to you too on your shared grieving for our mentor and friend here. Always in our hearts and his mark left in thousands of lives set free you and I included
Big Hug
Ariel

Dear friends, This is LG (forgot password, but new start anyway).
I am shocked and very sad to read this awful news of Gaj passing. I had no idea he was so ill.

Here from the start for me and so many others like a rock Gaj offered sound, caring advise with kindness, patience and good humour, He was always there for all and I cannot imagine this space without him.

I know dear Gaj will be so very missed by so many in this amazing community and even more in his local community of friends and family. Dr F, Ariel, Coral and all here who knew Gaj, I send love and best wishes and deepest condolences from afar.

Gaj was part of something great and exceptional in this world and he contributed so very much.

Love to all LG